Hello friends, yesterday my family took my precious Grandparents out to celebrate their 68th wedding anniversary. A marriage lasting this long is almost unheard of with the divorce rate being near 50% for both believers and non. Being a clinician, I’ve had the privilege to sit with many couples and guide them through premarital therapy, […]
Hello Friends, you know following Christ is diﬃcult. We are fighting a real battle with an enemy who seeks to destroy us (Ephesians 6:11-12). We all face struggles and hardship. Friends sometimes reject us or betray us. Trusting God can be diﬃcult when life is unfair and the future is uncertain. Without encouragement, giving up […]
Hello friends, you know it seems like marriage has become a “touchy” topic for some people. Maybe it’s because I live here in Southern California where some folks believe that their opinions can bend, buy or change reality. Regardless of what we as mere mortals write on paper, God’s laws will never change as He […]
Hello friends, one of the most dangerous things to a relationship is the spirit of control. It’s the number one relationship killer – the tendency for one spouse to try and control another. Control can be overt or subtle. Sometimes people will try to control others because they think that they know what’s best. In […]
Loving a child doesn’t mean giving them everything they want. Love says “No.” Love seeks the best for the other and seeks long-term character growth, even if it means short-term discomfort. Loving parents instill discipline, routine and structure knowing that these values combined with Godly principles will help establish a firm foundation for their children to be rooted and grounded in Christ.
Hello Friends, you know successful marriages have three elements: the husband, wife and God. Many couples will initially become enamored and “love” that they have so many things in common. There’s a lot of marital advice being spread that says “the more you have in common, the better your marriage” or “opposites attract” and even […]
Hello Friends, you know when we are very young, patterns of relating are ingrained into our brains as part of our character. We have certain dynamics that we repeat until we change them. Our most basic and primary need is to be loved by God and people. We can try to put that need off, […]
Hello Friends, you know kids are extremely perceptive. Those precious little ones pick up on a parents feelings far more than most parents are aware of. Nonverbal messages of eye contact, facial expression, tone of voice, gestures, body posture, and the timing and intensity of response are extremely important elements of communication. These nonverbal signals […]
Hello Friends, you know we live in a culture that loves to be entertained. Sitcoms, movies, Disneyland, Universal Studies, Vegas and of course, the local fair. It seems as thought we can’t get enough lights, movies, or entertainment – everyone seems to be hooked on wanting to know what this or that celebrity is doing. […]
As the gatekeeper to your heart, you must be diligent and wise in all that you do. Your heart is the wellspring of life, nurture it, protect it, and daily immerse it in the truth of God’s word.