Be Careful Who You Listen To

How To Discern Godly Council

Jonny came inside holding his foot up in pain. While outside playing he had accidentally aquired a very deep splinter. His sister looked at his foot and saw that the splinter had lodged itself deeply inside Jonny’s tissue. She knew that she needed to get it out  in order for healing to occur, however the process of removal would be quite painful. splinter

Truth or reality is avoided when it is painful. What does a life of total dedication to the truth mean? It means, first of all, a life of continuous and never-ending stringent self-examination. We know the world only through our relationship to it. Therefore, to know the world, we must not only examine it, but we must simultaneously assess the examiner.mirror

The life of wisdom must be a life of contemplation combined with action. The Bible teaches us that it’s wise to seek advice from people we trust, but we must proceed with caution.

Friends, it’s important that you listen to Godly council because it will always direct you to the word of God. Ungodly council will cost you greatly.

God wants us to always turn to Him first.  However He also encourages us to turn to Godly council.

“The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26

“Wisdom is found on the lips of the discerning, but a rod is for the back of one who has no sense.” Proverbs 10:13lightstock_167786_medium_user_4024626

There are many in society who live with an attitude of entitlement. Yet here’s the truth:

“If you and I were given what we TRULY deserved, it would not be pretty! “

Friends, even though we have the priviledge of coming to the Lord and seeking His word, we also have the advantage of seeking Godly council. Indeed, His word encourages us to do so, however not just any council, but Godly council.

“Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.” Proverbs 13:10

“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Proverbs 13:20

“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Proverbs 15:22

If you’re in a situation where you want to know the truth, you want to seek council from someone whose lifestyle you trust.  You want to seek council from someone who will be absolutely honest, loving and kind, yet will tell you all of the truth, regardless of whether you like it or not. Why is this? Because the truth is always your friend!  

Think of it this way – would you want half of the splinter taken out, or all of the splinter removed?

One of the evidences of unGodly council is that there is little mention of God, the Bible, Prayer or Jesus Christ. 

So how do you determine Godly council? Here are a few ways to determine whether the conversation you are having with an individual is Godly council:

  1. The Conversation references Jesus and The Word of God – if you get into a situation where the individual does not reference the Bible or Jesus or Prayer as their foundation or reference to which they use as their foundation of truth, then be careful and here’s why. Godly council will be wrapped up within the principles and teachings of God’s Word. 
  2. There is an absence of Prayer: when talking with someone, there is a subtle implication that they have the answer. However a wise counselor knows that the answer never lies within themselves but they are merely a guide which the Lord has entrusted through which He works. Any wise counselor knows that prayer is a vital part towards moving the person towards talking to God. If the counselor never mentions prayer or points you to the Lord, then be careful.
  3. Any council that goes against violating the Word of God: whenever you hear anything that goes against the Word of God, watch out! Sometimes this can come across very subtely in an attitude or demeanor. This is why it’s to your benefit that you be plugged into the Holy Spirit, because He will open your eyes to see beyond what is presented to what He wants you to see. There will be times the Holy Spirit will reveal to you what man has omitted – and just like God’s word says,

“But there is nothing covered up that will not be revealed, and hidden that will not be known. “Accordingly, whatever you have said in the dark will be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in the inner rooms will be proclaimed upon the housetops.” Luke 12:3 

Godly council will always point you to the Word of God and a personal relationship with Jesus Christ! Only Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit will fill you with discernment, direction and discretion in the relationships, choices, words, and actions for your daily walk.

We are living in times where many people are “lovers of self and not lovers of God.” 2 Timothy 3:2 There are many good people who have naively permitted the values of society to influence their family, work and lifestyle more than remaining firm on what God’s word says. Unfortunately, it’s affected every aspect of their lifestyle. The Bible calls this spiritual blindness – yet satan knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s a master of illusion and skilled at the art of deception. Yet Jesus simply says, “Come to me.”


Can you imagine what would have happened if Jonny would not have removed that splinter from his foot? His foot would have festered, become infected, and it would affect his gait. His ability to walk would be inhibited because his foot would have swollen the size of a cantaloupe, and slowly, if left untreated, the infection could worsen and get into his blood stream causing it to reach his heart.

My point is this – sometimes the initial pain of pulling out the splinter is hurtful, however it protects you from experiencing future harm (like the loss of a foot).

So what are the splinters in your life that need removing? Apathy? Comparison? Jealousy? Lying? Judgement? Hard-heartedness? Pleasing people more than God? Gossip? Duplicity? Selfishness? Pride?

Here’s the truth:  when you die, you aren’t going to answer to your boss, your pastor, your spouse, your kids, or any president you voted for. You will stand, all alone, and answer to God. 

The best course of action is removal of the entire splinter.

May you have inner courage, tenacity and fortitude to walk with Jesus daily and continually be transformed into His likeness.


Christy Demetriades, Ph.D.

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