Many parents desire to raise children who love, honor and follow God. We live in very different times with everyone vying for your time and attention. Yet good research confirms the veracity of Scripture.
Research done by Dr. Lee Raby published in the journal Child Development, found that sensitive caregiving in the first three years of life can predict academic achievement and social competence all the way into adulthood, a new study finds. (Raby et al., 2014).
The children’s progress was followed from birth to age 32. Parents were observed interacting with their children during the first three years of the infants’ lives. The researchers continued to follow the children, even into their twenties and thirties, asking them about their adult relationships and academic attainment.
Dr. Raby said:
“Altogether, the study suggests that children’s experiences with parents during the first few years of life have a unique role in promoting social and academic functioning–not merely during the first two decades of life, but also during adulthood.
Training your children to listen and obey your requests is a challenging goal for many parents. It requires that you understand the goal of your instruction and the way to secure that goal.
Yet before you children will every obey or follow anything you request, there must be a loving connection. Connection is the “fuel” to our inner life. Numerous other studies have shown that the key factor to success in leadership, parenting, and longevity was one thing: connection. Without genuine loving connection, people fail to thrive.
Good leaders know that one of the best ways to train others is to let them accompany you to observe what you do, give some training, and then equip them to do what you are doing. Yet the point of contact all starts with connection.
The greatest investment that you can give to your children is the investment of YOU!
Remember, the life you are living today is the life your children will copy tomorrow. Invest in them. Spend time with them reading God’s word. Not only are you helping their future academic, romantic and professional success, but you are charting the course for their future with the Lord.
Your relationship is the key to helping them understanding God’s word and His ways. It is far more important for them to spent time with you than for them to have that new i-gadget. They won’t remember the i-gadget that you worked so hard to obtain. Yet they WILL remember the wonderful family tradition of making gingerbread men every Christmas Eve.
Love well and laugh often, and make memories that you will cherish for generations to come.
May your home be filled with love and laughter!
Christy Demetriades, Ph.D.